An Update

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What have WE been up to since Caleb got home?

I picked him up at the airport at 5:00 pm and by the time we made it to baggage claim there was only a box left on the luggage carousel – and it wasn’t ours. We filed a report and United let us know that it was on the next plane due to arrive at 7:00 pm along with the other guys that Caleb rode with from Bahrain, but somehow missed their last connecting flight. The airline would have it delivered for free that night…or so we thought.

At 8:00 pm the airline calls asking if someone picked up (stole!) our bags. Why, no. Why would someone do that? To sell all the dirty uniforms inside? Or maybe it’s because they are the chief in charge of these things and they took them back to their office. Caleb will get a text later letting us know we can pick them up on base in the morning. Until then, it’s time for pizza.

The next couple days will be spent in each other’s arms…oh, besides that. We will ride bikes, walk the pier, grocery shop, get the oil changed, play with the dogs, and get some table-saw parts from the neighbor. I will think I’m reintroducing Caleb to San Diego, but he remembers the directions better than I do. We eat bagels, and salad, and noodles…and yes, I’m giving you useless information with no food pictures to show for it.

It’s hard to believe that I made it nine months without my husband, though I know some of the wives can’t wait for their husbands to go back alone, I’m grateful that I actually love mine and want to spend time with him, and talk with him, and well….I would like to thank my Grandma for the invite to Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner; my Dad and Sonal for the chance to work a month at Indo-Euro; and my Dad and Caroline for inviting me and my dogs into their home for the next couple months to keep me from getting too lonely.

Being invited out to Phoenix once a month, or more, allowed me to enjoy the drive often, make new friends, learn more about family, cook with my dad, knit with Caroline, go to concerts, eat Ethiopian, and enjoy other new experiences. My dad was gone to Europe for the month of April and I got nothing done, but our trip in May inspired me to take another in June, and July seems like a blur.

Soon it was August and I was counting down the hours until I could pick something to wear and wait at the gate in the terminal. I started to lose sleep, but was able to get a lot of reading done. Of course I was the first of the expecting group waiting at the USO and of course I ran up to Caleb and almost knocked him over as he took me in his arms. I thought I was going to cry and didn’t want that picture on Facebook, but lucky for me, having my husband back with a crowd of smiles and applause was contagious and I grinned from cheek to cheek.

I would also like to thank the people who kept in touch with me during this stressful time whether in person, on the phone, or Facebook. I would like to thank the FRG, MWR and USO (some military abbreviations I don’t know) for supporting Crew Reaper (workers and wives) during this time. I got a message in a bottle from Caleb – a lovely personal poem that I may one day share. They sold shirts and held meetings and parties while Caleb worked most days from 5:00 am – 9:00 pm (or so he tells me).

But I was once in the Navy and that’s how long he had to stay some days, working or not, but that was many pay-grades ago when he had some brown-eyed, brown-haired girl in blue coveralls distracting him – and though we may not work on the same ship together we are still a team and I can distract him at home – or Skype while on deployment. He earned a NAM (something the Captain of the boat said he earned for working so hard to keep two broken boats in semi-working order). I’m very proud to be this sailor’s wife, but as many of you may know – I’m no typical navy wife.

And I can be a slacker while the working man is away. We received the car registration in the mail that was due last month and got the rabies certification that we will need to bring the dogs into Canada – that only took an hour and a half at the vet’s office so they could fax the form across the country – got to love technology though. Had we been waiting on the Pony Express I would’ve had to start last month like I was supposed to, but I was too busy planning a trip for someone who wants to go everywhere.

We finally have it narrowed down and we will be touring the U.S. and Canada by car and foot and with dogs in tow. There will be nights we sleep in the car, eat Ramen noodles, and go a day without a shower so that we are able to spend our savings on gas to travel back-roads together up mountains, across valleys, and into the sunset. We will laugh often and spend about 5.3 days driving. I look forward to this time together with him and with my readers – be it loving family, real friends, internet strangers, or one of the many couchsurfers that I was lucky enough to have chosen me to stay with.

Life’s a road that you can only drive once and I’m glad to be at a juncture in my life where I can do what I love – for my mind: converse, read, write, learn; for my body: hike, bike, cook; and my soul: spend time with Caleb, keep in touch with family, and make new friends. I’m grateful to have a Dad that has so much faith in me and my potential while I spend time walking in the woods with my camera instead of at my desk learning new skills that will afford Caleb and I a trip around the world, but I too have faith in them – and me.

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Forks and Spoons

a fork in the road

a fork in the road

A lot of people I know live their life and always look back at that one big fork in the road – that point of no return that could have made their life better or worse, but now they will never know. The greatest example of this, from my childhood, came from my mother. She used to tell me that had she known my father was going to leave us she could have picked a different command while in the Army. She feels this would have put her in touch with a better step-father and husband; though I don’t believe our personal choices change by what physical state or country we are in, but by mental determination.

I learned from her: always make choices that you are happy with, are legal, and won’t physically harm someone else; live without regrets. The times in life that people regret most are the things they have left undone. I can look back on splits in my path and I’m happy with the choices I made. My biggest decisions…

my Nova

my Nova

I bought a ’72 Chevy Nova that got totaled by a ’02 Ford truck instead of a nondescript car with roll bars. I joined the Navy in 2004 in hopes of travel and an education and have gotten both instead of waiting around in Florence for a job and an opportunity. I wanted to enroll in college then, but without more motivation from family found it hard to send money and long essays to an undetermined amount of colleges in hopes that one would accept me – this is before I knew about community colleges.

I'm on a boat!

I’m on a boat!

Once in the Navy at 17 years old I was determined to retire 20 years later, until I met my future husband, skipped a deployment, and got out. I likely would’ve gotten in trouble with the guys in Spain, made it home, went to a few more keg parties, and eventually met someone, but I know I wouldn’t have stayed in – or maybe I would. I miss some of the camaraderie that came so easy, but there is a lot of the day-to-day nonsense that I don’t miss at all and making friends based on mutual interests (besides drinking) is more fun.

bums, Sparky and Piggy, that live with us

bums, Sparky and Piggy, that live with us

Caleb and I dated for seven months before I decided to get out. It was either that and work on our relationship with him going on deployment or stay in and be on opposing deployment schedules for the next two years. We dated for three years before we married and I always said we could have gotten married sooner, but the timing was perfect.

Our next fork would be children, until we realized that dogs are easier to buy and take care of, but if I do get pregnant I know to focus my efforts on my husband just as much as the little person that I will be releasing into the world because one day that kid will leave, but my husband knows that he is with me till death do we part or until we realize that we are miserable – like a lot of ‘comfortable’ couples we know, but until then we will continue to enjoy this special connection that we have and all the happiness that it brings.

my fork and spoon

my fork and spoon

I look forward to the next big decision that I’m faced with. Some may say moving to Bahrain would be something to think twice about, but if it’s where my husband is going to be for a year or two (even for a couple of days) and I have nothing holding me back here (like a job) then I don’t blink when I think of the adventure we will have together, as it seems he has been miserable over there by himself, except for when drinking with the guys. And where he happens to be I want to be there with him.

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Senior Graduation Poetry

mom's choice of photos for my senior page in the yearbook - all prior 1998

mom’s choice of photos for my senior page in the yearbook – all prior 1998

I recently got invited to my ten-year high school reunion in Texas that is in the planning stages for next year. Holy wow! I may feel like the years have gone by, but I’ve got lots of good memories to go with them. I also just got an email from my college in Florida congratulating me on my recent graduation – I would have a Bachelor’s Degree now, but got my Associate’s in Business Administration in Aug. 2011 and moved to California seven months later.

I happen to keep a lot of things, but only until I realize I’m starting a collection and then I make a visit to Goodwill. I don’t want to be attached to material clutter – only the materials I need (computer and camera) to make the experiences better saved for me to remember in the years to come. I found a collection of poems that my English teacher, Coach Renaud, had the seniors write about their feelings on graduation.

Out of the 60 or more, including me, students that I graduated with the top five words they used to describe their feelings were: excited, happy, sad, scared, and with a tie for fifth was relief and anxiety. Our feelings have been met in college, in relationships, with kids, and bills. Some have made their own rules and others have broken them. Below are some of the poems that still make the most sense to me today and quotes from others. Enjoy.

Anxious to be free,
Unprepared, now I see.
Excited to walk the stage,
Ready to leave the cage,
Happy we will be free.
– Nathan Howe

Laidback is the way I feel,
Structureless is always the deal.
Inconsiderate some teachers are,
Memories only go so far,
Indecisive is becoming so real.
– Jamie Cooley

Ready to get out
Impatiently waiting, yet full of doubt
Excited for the day
Relieved, though I must say
Sadness fills my heart.
– Jessica Terry

Tiring days at high school blur in my memory;
Confusion and frustration have had a hold on me;
Liberation has come around and finally shown its face;
Wild days are a haze; I really might miss this place.
Surreal is this dream and I’m about to wake up.
When I look back on all of this I’m relieved that time is up.
– Lindsay Stafford

Diverse is the word to describe the class of ’04.
Closing is the door of our adolescence.
Exhausted after 4 long years to realize that we must begin anew.
Overwhelmed after years of hard work that have finally paid off.
Optimistic for the years to come.
– Deanna Ramirez

Inconsistent throughout the years is how it has been.
Comfortable to know there was always a friend.
Hellacious on the days far away from the end.
Content with all and
Relieved to know a new beginning is a result of this end.
– Mindy Beverly

Dumb luck got me through.
Boredom saturated the classes.
Endurance finally finished them.
Annoyance filled the last days of the last year.
Unforgettable will be the moments that will stock our memories.
– Erica Curl

Insightful describes my high school years
Stressful because satisfaction for all is impossible
Experience in the past has made me who I am today
Not limited to what I have accomplished so far
Excited to see what is going to happen next.
– Kelly Price

Fun and exciting is what high school should always be.
Confusing is what it is if you go through it as me.
Busy is the life of a student at Florence High,
Miserable…only sometimes, Mondays most for me.
“PARTY” is our motto, it’s what we like to yell,
We got it done, we had some fun, and we didn’t go to jail.
– Brandon Hensley

Happy as a man entering a new world.
Sad as a man losing his girl.
Excited as a man getting a new life.
Scared as a man about to get a wife.
Lost as a man about to lose it all.
– Jeremy Corn

Happy is how I feel for being done.
Glad for passing even though I’m dumb.
Sad from parting from my friends.
Mad because in all reality I don’t want it to end.
Scared because I’m entering something new and I don’t know what to do.
– Brandonn Henry

Grateful that we’re all through
Anxious to be done with you
Sad to be leaving friends
Excited to be meeting these ends
Joy for all the new to come
– Jessica Wise

Freedom, the greatest thing in life!
– Christy Caddell

Fulfillment is everywhere.
– Jeremy Cody

Scared to be on my own.
– Brandon Brimer

Madness is something brought out by too many.
– Taniea Baker

Stressed about growing up.
– Maci Atkinson

Sad that I have to pay my own bills.
– Ashley Reed

Nervous that I will fall when walking.
– Billie Cairnes

Happiness fills my heart.
– Kristin Powers

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My Hike Up Iron Mountain

Iron Mountain trailhead

Iron Mountain trailhead

oak grove on trail

oak grove on trail

out of the grove and into the sun

out of the grove and into the sun

a simple plant along the way

a simple plant along the way

making my way up

making my way up

a rocky surface

a rocky surface

rocks and clouds

rocks and clouds

a view from the top

a view from the top

me at the peak

me at the peak

view coming down

view coming down

back to the beginning

back to the beginning

 

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Irena and Nadia Come for Cake

steps in Lucky Bastard Saloon

steps in Lucky Bastard Saloon

The more surfers I have, the easier it gets. Irena wanted to leave Denver for her daughter, Nadia’s, 14th birthday. These two are best friends being able to travel together, agree on everything, and share a sense of adventure. We agreed to meet at Ranchos Natural Foods, a restaurant in Ocean Beach with Mexican and vegetarian cuisine at 7:00 pm. I arrived 15 minutes early and recognized them immediately.

I learned that they don’t eat eggs – lucky for them this place serves vegan chocolate cake and I had the vegan carrot cake. I had thought we would eat here so we could walk at Sunset Cliffs after, but it was already dark, so we walked to the end of the pier instead and Nadia showed the fishermen and locals and other tourists her skills with her light-up glowing poi balls – that she got inspired to learn so that one day she can play with fire.

apple crisp at Lucky Bastard Saloon

apple crisp at Lucky Bastard Saloon

They rented a car, so they will follow me home where we talk about work, school, vacation, kids, pets, San Diego, Tijuana, the Zombie Walk, and plenty more. Irena is not shy to ask lots of questions – most I have answers for. Saturday morning, we will leave Nadia to sleep while we go to Big City Bagels in Hillcrest for an egg-free breakfast – and lots of sugar in Irena’s already sweet coffee – she knows how to fight sleep – and work while on vacation.

Joker on a phone

Joker on a phone

Back at the house they chow down on bagels and chug coffee in prep of their day at Mission Beach. They have reservations for surf lessons and reading in the sand. We will meet later to head to Gypsy Treasure in La Mesa to get zombie-fied with bloody wounds on our arms and faces that we apply using the reflection in the stores windows. We continued to find new blood on ourselves throughout the night and our hair was sticking to our faces – adding to the effect.

Nadia, the zombie, lost downtown

Nadia, the zombie, lost downtown

Once downtown, and closer to the start of the Zombie Walk at Children’s Park, we became hungry. We agreed on pizza and asked the guys outside of Hotel Wyndham Harbor Lights for a recommendation – Lucky Bastard Saloon. We had to wait 15 minutes for them to open at 5:00 pm and then we sat upstairs next to the free pool table along with a shuffleboard table and beer pong table that are available.

We ordered our own 10-inch pizzas and shared an apple crisp – that came out before dinner. We made our way towards the start of the walk, but were at least 30 minutes late. We got asked by lots of people what happened to the walk and it seems we weren’t the only zombies to be late and lost. There was a big commotion about an actor from Breaking Bad, a girl with her fake boobs creating a traffic jam, and real officers fake-arresting people as a fundraiser for a museum.

men in uniform

men in uniform

We got asked by others if they could take our pictures, take pictures with us, and if we could take photos of them – we had a photo-tastic night posing with police, clowns, heroes, nemesis’, and a Pikachu zombie. I think we had as much fun washing off the blood and peeling off the glue in my bathroom as we did putting this stuff on as people passed us on the street unaware of tonight’s events – a nice surprise to unknowing tourists that happen to be in town while Comic Con is in full force – such is the case with Irena and Nadia.

Matilda - Batman's enemy from Arkham Asylum

Matilda – Batman’s enemy from Arkham Asylum

Sunday morning we will go to Katy’s Café in Imperial Beach and get two almond joy mochas and a chocolate coffee to get our day started with a view of the Pacific Ocean on our way to Tijuana – they are surprised by how close the border is to my house. My usual parking spot has gone from $7.00 to $10, but that won’t deter us – here to walk, eat, and shop…and stand in line. They are amazed at how easy it is to enter Mexico.

Mileena - Mortal Kombat

Mileena – Mortal Kombat

We are here early – before the vendors have had a chance to set up along the bridges, but the shops are open and the guys are out advertising their wares…and talking loud enough for me to hear, ”she’s going to get her camera stolen wearing it about like that.” I replied, “that’s what they said last time,” to which he said that I had gotten lucky last time…and the time before that, but I don’t like hearing him say it…to leave me thinking he will try something later, but of course my camera and I made a safe return.

Irena wondered out loud how someone would steal a camera with the strap around my neck. I simply told her they could cut it off or push me down – with a fist or a car. The possibilities are endless when someone really wants something, but I would be more than willing to give up the camera, but preferably not the memory card in any case – I have more to live for than that. Irena is not shy to asking questions and will keep them coming throughout the day about Mexico’s history, pharmacies, restaurant menus, homeless people, zonkeys, vendors, and things to do.

balloon anyone?

balloon anyone?

They keep friends back home in mind while looking at sunglasses, necklaces, and a new bag for Nadia. They sit in a hammock swing – I love them too, but not only do they not want the burden of carrying it around today, Irena doesn’t want to carry it on the airplane as they only brought carry-on luggage and won’t have the space – these girls know how to travel. I offered to mail things back and it was considered, but not done as the chair seems nice, but then you have to think of where you’re going to hang it.

Two Face and Poison Ivy

Two-Face and Poison Ivy

I had yet to go into a Mexican grocery store in Mexico, so in we went to Soriana Super where a lot looked the same, but they had chips for sale by bulk and a large variety of donuts and baked goods out on shelves – no sneeze guard. That didn’t bother me, but we hadn’t eaten lunch yet, so I thought I would wait on the sweets until Nadia noticed a childhood favorite banned in the U.S. as a choking hazard – Kinder Sorpresa (stands for child surprise). It’s a chocolate hollow egg with a small toy inside.

Nadia getting arrested for being dead and disorderly

Nadia getting arrested for being dead and disorderly

Nadia and I eat one each revealing a Barbie and a pterodactyl on our way to get some ice cream. Inside the egg comes a Barbie with torso, legs, a stand, and paperwork – one showing how to assemble her and what her friends look like, and another in 37 languages letting you know that this toy is not suitable for children under 3 as small parts may be swallowed or inhaled. I’m sure the right person could swallow the whole egg.

I asked around for Tepoznieves – not just nieves (ice cream), but a special shop that sells flavors of corn, cheese, anise, horchata, tuna, chile carrot, beets, prickly pear, fig with mescal, and yogurt coffee – just some among their 100 combinations. Instead we are directed to some shop on the corner with 12 colors to choose from. Mine tastes like grape and pistachio almond and I’m grateful for the food, company, and culture that I find myself in on this beautiful day.

coffee at the beach

coffee at the beach

Not wanting to walk to the beach or get lost finding new places to explore it’s decided that we can go wait in the long line. At one point we are offered, for $20 each, a 40 minute ride to the border – no thanks. As we pass the 2.5 hour line marker I know we are going to be here a while. We tried another option, bus for $6 each, but they were already full, so we got in line to wait. After an hour we bought some churros – their first time having some which started a conversation with the guy behind us.

Nadia and Irena in front of Mexico border

Nadia and Irena in front of Mexico border

He was smart enough to bring a book. Perhaps one of these visits I will remember to bring one too, but I’m always with someone (so I should bring something to read aloud). There was plenty of live music on this Sunday (the busiest line day) to keep us entertained at intervals. There was a boy on a piano accordion, a man singing, a man playing a harp, a woman singing and selling CDs, and a man singing while playing on a keyboard.

Jesus eating out of the palm of his hands

Jesus eating out of the palm of his hands

Today’s wait would only be three hours. We were all able to walk through the line. As I approached the customs agent he was telling one of his buddies something that included a phrase of cuss words. I laughed loudly and after swiping my passport, he waved me on. After a trip to the girl’s room we made our way to the pedestrian bridge in a slight sprinkle. I put my purse, camera inside, in a plastic bag for the trek back to the car. When we got home the rain was done.

I thought we might try something new for dinner, but Irena said it would make her day/visit if we could go back to Lucky Bastard Saloon for the same pizza and apple crisp that she fell in love with. I couldn’t argue with that. And this time she ordered two desserts so there would be some for her to take back to my house to eat later. Afterwards we went by the Little Saigon District to check out the Lantern Festival.

face paint in Tijuana

face paint in Tijuana

It was being held in the Hoover High School parking lot and was mostly children’s rides. We may have gone in to look more had it not been for the $5 entry fee each, so we walked the length of it instead. I found one or two rides that looked able to make the rider puke and a singer at the other end, but since we had just eaten there was no point in trying new food or losing our meal being tossed around in metal cages.

Jai Alai Fronton Palace with statue of the Pelotari in front

Jai Alai Fronton Palace with statue of the Pelotari in front

Later, Irena would feel like a movie, but after watching two trailers realized how tired she was and that she would likely fall asleep in the theater so we decided to stay home. She joked about her weariness considering she had a second coffee for the day while waiting in the Tijuana line. They leave before nine in the morning to drop off the rental car and get in line for airport security for their ride back to Colorado.

man playing harp while we wait in line

man playing harp while we wait in line

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